Updated: Aug 7, 2022
Love requires understanding. Understanding for both individuals. No one is perfect. No person is going to have it all together. A lot of times dating individuals expect someone to hear their requirements and complaints and expect an immediate change. I’m not saying stay around if a person hears your complaints and never make any strides to change, compromise, or do better. If there’s no progress, let it go and if it’s meant to be it’ll come back to you. I am saying, though, give the people you are dating grace.
We expect these people to change as soon as we tell them to change. When someone wants to stop smoking or drinking alcohol, we’re not going to tell them to stop cold turkey. If someone wants to become a vegetarian, we’re not going to encourage to just stop abruptly. Most will begin to limit what they’re doing until they have completely given up what they wanted to. Some people can decide they want to give up something and stop immediately but everyone is not that disciplined.
While dating, we have to remember the person is still growing and learning how to make it in life every single day. No matter how old we get, we’ll never have the answer key to getting through life. Everyone is constantly learning.
Now, don’t accept the trash. Pray about the people you date. Don’t be giving grace to someone that is manipulating you and using you. We have to have discernment and wisdom so that we can understand our relationships which ultimately allows us to love effectively.
“A person of great understanding is patient, but a short temper is the height of stupidity.”
Proverbs 14:29 GW
“Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud”
1 Corinthians 13:4 NLT
Understanding = Patient = Love